Eckhart Tolle: "When we derive our identity and our sense of self from our personal history, the narratives in our minds, the stories in our minds (memories), we are greatly limited."
Why? We are NOT what our brain has told us we are! We cannot determine who we are based on our personal history. Low self-worth and negative self-talk come from an over-identification with memories and our judgements about those memories. 'If I did this, I must be a bad person. If I did not do this, that means I am never going to be good enough.' In other words, when we believe that our personal history defines who we really are, we will never be good enough; we will remain stuck!
"Life will give you whatever experience that is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at this moment.?" (Tolle)
So, all those stories in your head that say, 'You are not good enough', were NOT happening to prove your unworthiness. On the contrary - they were there to help you evolve your consciousness. Period! Our brain likes to label things, and most of the time, it marks experiences with negativity. Those negative labels are a misinterpretation and NOT accurate. They were there to help you learn, grow and to remember something. Not to prove you were bad or to prove someone else was bad.
Grab your journal and begin to re-write your story; reach out, find a 'soul buddy', seek out a spiritual mentor that will help you reexamine these experiences, the negative repetitive thoughts you have had for years. What if you were off the mark in your interpretation?? What if?? You can Revolutionize the way you see experiences! It is Evolutionary because you have always been ENOUGH!
* Tolle, Eckhart. A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose. New York, N.Y: Dutton/Penguin Group, 2005. Print.